My fiance spends 5-6 nights a week at my house but has not helped with any household finances?

I travel a lot for my job and my fiance has the luxury of staying in my very nice home even when I'm out of town. He also works from home (mine) every day even though he still has his own apt. He uses my electricity, water, internet, pool, food, ect... His lease runs out this month and he plans on moving in permantly but has avoided talking about finances and made no offer to help out with any bills. How do I tell him it's time to start paying his fair share?

Public Comments

1. Change the locks and when he tries to get in and can't, he'll know.
2. Some people are just nervy. Why are you marrying him? (kidding) Have you talked to him about this? Sometimes people don't realize what huge pains they are, and once they realize, they behave. Other people just don't like to be corrected-- But if you're getting married you should be able to discuss things like this! And he should definitely be pitching in with the bills!! Try making yourself "To-Do" lists, and maybe he'll get the hint
3. Just tell him. Soon. I made this same mistake many years ago. To make it worse, I ended up marrying him and having his kid. Nothing has changed. He still doesn't contribute to the household. I set the precedent by allowing it while we were dating and so he naturally expected that it would continue indefinitely. Now, if I ask him for any type of financial contribution, he actually believes and behaves as though I'm hurting him. He's been at his job for 17 years and makes a fairly reasonable amount. All of his money is spent on his own personal toys like cars, motorcycles, big televisions, and expensive clothes. Don't make the mistake that I made. Make him stand on his own two feet now. The longer you put it off, the worse it'll be. Don't worry about how it comes out sounding - just spit it out - HURRY.
4. If you were smart you would tell him that you have changed your mind and that you want to wait until later. He needs to find his own place. THEN, take some time and really think about why you want someone in your life that has taken advantage of you and does not want to pay his fair share. It will not improve but rather get worse if he moves in with you. PLEASE stop and think. It already is in your words above that you resent this so listen to your own words!!!!
5. If he already is shy about talking finances, this is a problem. Now is the time to talk, before he moves in. There are no free rides it has to be 50/50, unless you feel like supporting him forever.