wat should i do im confused...any adivce?? and people in this situation???
ok so i think that me, my mom, and my sis might be suffering from domestic abuse...whenever my dad is angry insults my mother, me, and my sis saying things how we are all miserable, stupid, menstruating women etc.. he completely cuts off finances for us.. hes also sent my mom mean emails and phone calls just putting her down. he always has to be in control. wen he is mad he immediately cuts the tv cord and my mom says it makes him feel powerful to do these things. he get violent too. he has hit my mom a number of times and i remember wen he tried to push her off a boat after hitting her. he has hit my sister many times because she is stubborn and angers him easily. he has grabbed my sis and me around the neck and shook us around. he has thrown my sis against stairs before and he has hit me once that i can remember always squeezes my arms unbelievably hard and has backed me into a wall.. i didnt think this was all that bad or unusual beofre but i feel so destroyed from this im now realizing this isnt normal...wen he's not mad he is so sweet so i feel very guilty even thinking he abuses us..but wen i try to confront my dad about everything he makes it sound like i am being ridiculous and am trying to sound like a suffering child...wen we confront my mom she pushes it away as no big deal ..my mom has said we are leaving before or getting divorced but it never happens and i kno she will never leave him...
Public Comments
- You guys need family counsleing or you need to talk to a trusted adult about this. Maybe a teacher that you trust. It sounds pretty bad. And your dad does seem to have the symptoms of being a control freak. It also sounds like he is struggling a lot himself.
- yes hun, you are being physically and mentally and verbally abused- it is not normal and it is not right-he has no right to treat you like that- and yes your mother may never leave him- unfortunately a lot of people in these situations just deal with it because they feel they would be wrong for leaving or the think that they deserve this type of abuse you need to find a relative or school counselor who can help you out- tell them what is going on and ask them for advice on how to deal with it and what is available for you in your area- please tell someone- nobody should have to live like that good luck
- I feel so bad for you. It seems you are the only one in the family who can think for themselves. Yes, this is abuse. You are right. The big problem is that it will only get worse. He needs to leave the house. Your mother needs a backbone. The problem may be that she fears being able to support the family without him. This is the case much of the time. He will never change, he feels badly about himself and his failures in life and takes it out on the ones around him. Hope this helps, good luck.
- knocking people down and shoving them into stairs is not normal or acceptable get help - tell someone - police, preacher, school teacher he may be a wonderful man but is unable to control himself he may seriously injure or kill someone because he can't control himself he needs help and so do all of you
