is there anything i can do? is anyone in this situation?

ok so i think that me, my mom, and my sis might be suffering from domestic abuse...whenever my dad is angry insults my mother, me, and my sis saying things how we are all miserable, stupid, menstruating women etc.. he completely cuts off finances for us.. hes also sent my mom mean emails and phone calls just putting her down. he always has to be in control. wen he is mad he immediately cuts the tv cord and my mom says it makes him feel powerful to do these things. he get violent too. he has hit my mom a number of times and i remember wen he tried to push her off a boat after hitting her. he has hit my sister many times because she is stubborn and angers him easily. he has grabbed my sis and me around the neck and shook us around. he has thrown my sis against stairs before and he has hit me once that i can remember always squeezes my arms unbelievably hard and has backed me into a wall.. i didnt think this was all that bad or unusual beofre but i feel so destroyed from this im now realizing this isnt normal...wen he's not mad he is so sweet so i feel very guilty even thinking he abuses us..but wen i try to confront my dad about everything he makes it sound like i am being ridiculous and am trying to sound like a suffering child...wen we confront my mom she pushes it away as no big deal ..my mom has said we are leaving before or getting divorced but it never happens and i kno she will never leave him...

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1. call da police dats abuse
2. Seek help soon honey. You, your sister, and mother do not deserve this. Call the police. Go to a women's shelter. Do anything that you can to get out. Try to have someone get your dad into counseling, just get away as soon as possible. Be safe. Good luck.
3. to me this definately sounds like domestic violence. even if he wasn't hitting you (which you say he has) all the other things are considered mental abuse. my suggestion would be to contact your local safe against violence center. the number is usually an 800 number, and can be found in any phone book, hospital rest room, and possibly even in the guidance office of your school. good luck, and have faith. things will get better.
4. There is such thing as emotional abuse too. He does not treat you like a man should treat his family. You are right. It is not normal. I would definitely point that out to your mother and let her know how you feel about the situation. He needs counseling.
5. You and your Mother should leave him. He is not worth worrying about.
6. in the Situation that your having call the police or the local sheriffs department. the abuse will continue if you dont. I realize it is your dad but think about your mom she wants to act like it dosent hurt but it does and the more The continues the more it escalates. It will hurt but its the right thing to do girl
7. What you need to do is to talk to someone, an adult, that you trust. Understand that your mum is afraid. A woman that has been abused becomes fearful, loses much of her self-esteem and feels guilty, that somehow she is at fault for what is happening. She may feel that she will be unable to provide for you and your sister and that the two of you may be angry at having the family split up. Your mum is correct when she says that he feels powerful when he does these things. An abusive man feels a need to control all that is around him. Unfortunately, they tend to see their wife and children as posessions. Both of your parents need help and they need to be apart. You and your sister both deserve to be in a home without violence. Unfortunately, statistics show that female children that grow up in abusive homes tend to become victims and boys that grow up in abusive homes tend to become abusers. You and your sister need to get away from your dad right now and he needs to get help. I'm sure that you love him but you need to grow up feeling safe and secure not threatened. The longer the two of you are in this situation, there is a great chance that you will both begin to hate him. Talk to an adult who can intervene. It isn't up to you to solve these adult problems. But please, get someone. Stop the cycle now. Both of your parents will thank you later. Please take care....
8. i know how u feel. i am in the same situation as u r i just ran away so now i am living with my boy friend and i am happier then i was. but i made the wrong choice to run away and i feel stupid ( i think ) i have had a gun put to my head by both my parents and then my boy friend steeped in and helped me move everything out in to his house. i am now living with him and i don't think i want to go back but i have to because he is being put behind bars and i really dont want that to happen so i am going to try to go back to work but i dont know who to do that when i am having my baby soon and he dont want me to work and i try to tell him i dont want him to go to jail.. my parents have problems and i could have died if my boy friend did not help me and i did not want to die at all. if i was u i would get ur boy friend( if u have one ) and ( if he is old enough ) ask him to move in with him and then try to help him out to understand every thing that is happening just like i did and i am safe now and he is with me every were i go ( not to the bath room) so u should try it but wen u go to move make sure ur parents r not there to get every thing out or all most every thing ( wat u want the most to go with u ) i hope this all helps u but results may very' welcome
9. Your dad is a control freak and things will not get better until the ladies of the household are out and safe. The next time he gets violent, call the police even if it means stomping out like your mad and going to the next door neighbor's to make a call. Call on your cell phone if you have one. Men like this often start out as sweet, but then turn into someone completely different. Your dad will eventually severely hurt or kill one of you with the way he is going. If you feel comfortable, talk to a school counselor. Call Child Protective Services if you have to. Check your phone book for Adult Protective Services or related agencies and call them. What he is doing is illegal and he will go to jail once something or someone either gets hurt/killed or a call is made to the appropriate people. The local police department might be your best source to go with, but they cant really do anything until he has gotten violent. If he assaults your mom again, call then and that will be the start of it. Talk to a counselor either at school or privately about what is going on in your life. Having someone to talk to about your problems can help you keep your sanity. A counselor is also legally obligated to report child abuse to police when told about it. Something needs to be done before someone ends up hurt or dead. I wish you much luck. Keep us posted on how this turns out.
10. That definetely sounds like domestic violence. If I were you, I'd talk to someone about it. Talk to a trusted friend or teacher, and seek their advice before taking action. Just talking to a group of strangers on the internet won't help. You should probably report it after you gain support from ones close to you. It'll make you feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
11. don't stand for this this is definitely abuse when you feel guilty for thinking ill of him just try to think of what he has done to you the moment he lays a finger on any of you he has broken the law it's his responsibility to control his anger
12. Yes, honey that is domestic abuse. Your mom, your sister, and yourself need to find a safe place. Do you have family, neighbors, a religious organization of any sort that you can go to for help? Also I would suggest that once you are out of the house to seek couseling. Abuse, no matter for how long it has been going on can do serious emotional damage. I know from being abused myself. I have had a lot of healing, but there are still wounds and scars that are still being repaired. I would also suggest getting a police restraining order on your dad. That I know will be hard, but its the best way to ensure safety. I don't want to sound like I am preaching or anything like that, but I want you to know that in the midst of all the hell there is a God who cares for and loves your family. He is your safety, and refuge. I will be praying, and I am here if you need to talk, vent or whatever. :